Halloween is upon us. That time of year when everyone dons a mask and tries to be someone they’re not. But let’s be honest here, don’t you sometimes feel like every day is Halloween? Everywhere I look, I see people trying to fit in with those around them. Whether it’s high school girls with lots of makeup and matching outfits trying to look and act like the “popular crowd” or middle-aged men and women trying to look or act like teenagers, I often wonder why everyone always tries to be someone they aren’t.
How many times have we seen movies where, at some point, the male lead takes off the glasses of the female lead, lets her hair down, and tells her she’s beautiful? Do we all swoon because he’s finally seeing how beautiful she is without her glasses? No! We swoon because he finally recognizes how someone so different from everyone else, someone not trying to conform, is the most beautiful girl of all. He sees her for who she is, inside and out, and he realizes that in spite of her being a nerd, or shy, or even crossed-eyed, she’s the one he’s in love with! Let’s face it, it’s not every girl’s fantasy to be loved because she is just like everyone else. We want to be loved because we are who we are, and that’s good enough, in fact, better than good enough – it’s perfect. Look at one of the most popular entertainment genres out there – the musical. Wicked, Billy Elliot, The Lion King, Footloose, Flashdance, Frozen, Matilda, even The Sound of Music – they all have one message in common – Be who you are, embrace it, show it to the world, and live the life you were born to live.
I was ridiculed a lot in high school by my peers for standing out, for dressing my own way, for being a little too loud and a little too peppy. I had gone through all those years of elementary and middle school hiding behind the popular girls, and I was determined not to do that in high school. No matter what, I was going to be myself, popularity be damned. Here’s what I learned: yes, there were girls who hated me and boys who were annoyed by me, but I didn’t care, and in the end, it didn’t matter. I was never “in” the popular crowd, but I was friends with them, along with every other group in school. I never felt the need to fit in with anyone, and it turned out that I fit in with everyone. And really, that’s the way it should be. After all, as everyone under the age of 50 understands, “each one of us is a brain… and an athlete… a basket case… a princess… and a criminal.” It’s when we stop hiding all of the facets of who we are that we are able to show the real person who lies beneath the mask.
There’s an old adage that the least popular kids in high school are the most eligible ones twenty years down the line. So here’s my advice to the world, for what it’s worth. Be yourself now. Why wait? Don’t worry about what others will say or think, just be the best you that you can be. Take off your mask, and be proud of who you are. Life is too short to live in someone else’s shoes, or their costume.
Amy Schisler is the author of two mystery / suspense novels. Her first book, A Place to Call Home is in its second printing and may be purchased in stores and online. Amy’s newest mystery, Picture Me, was released in August of 2015 and is available in stores, at Amazon, and at Barnes & Noble. Both novels are also available for Kindle, Nook, and iBooks. Her children’s book, Crabbing With Granddad, may be purchased in stores and on Amazon.